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posted Friday, February 21 2014 - Volume 42 Issue 08
Let's not bully the bullies
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Let's not bully the bullies

by Sugie - SGN Contributing Writer

'I never met a man I didn't like,' opined Will Rogers, one of the more famous homespun American philosophers. I bet he would change his mind, if he were persecuted by a bully, as many of us have been. Bullying is caused by 'imbalance of power' so says some of the experts. There is more evidence being made public about how coming in contact with a bully can cause some to have years of therapy to overcome the bully's influences. There are different types of bullying. One is emotional bullying. That's when the bullying done to the victim causes damage to the victim's peace of mind. The other kind of bullying has to do with physical abuse. This is when the bully uses his strength against his victim in a negative, punishing manner.

WHAT MAKES A BULLY?
Myself, I seemed to be a target for bullies in grade school and sometimes in high school. There was this girl, kind of ugly for her 11 years. She used to try to turn all those who were waiting at the bus stop against me. She would tell them, 'I want you all to stare at Susan.' What was my reaction? I was very uncomfortable and vowed to get even with that girl. This is what I did! I brought my Ouija board to the bus stop to keep the heat off me, and it worked! The kids were more interested in my Ouija board than they were in following the bully's commands! My lovely mother used to give me comebacks I could use with even the worst bullies. For instance, a boy child and I were jockeying for position at the pencil sharpener in fourth grade. A lot of the kids thought we were 'hugging!' My mother said to tell the taunting classmate, 'He's the kind of guy I have nightmares about'!

SUSAN FIGHTS THE BULLIES
How did bullying affect me? For the longest time, I was afraid to catch my bus at the bus stop where the bullying against me originated. My mother would drive me to the bus stop and then I could wait in the car so I wouldn't have to cope with the bullies. I think she had my best interests at heart. Her motivation was fueled by love and I can even see that today when I look back.

CLOSURE FOR ALL
What causes a bully to be a bully? My theory is that they are abused at home by ignorant parents. That is why they strike back at their innocent victims outside the home. Do I have any advice for adults who feel they are being bullied or anyone, including kids? I would say try this age old remedy, 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, yet words can never hurt me.' And if that doesn't work, one can always walk away in the opposite direction. It is a rare person who can have compassion for the bully. If you can do this, you can exemplify an old football truism, 'The best defense is a good offense.'

I must go now because my watch is 'bullying' me to stop writing this article, and to go out to enjoy a bully free life. So, 'I'm gonna wash those bullies right out of my hair!' Can you dig it, my friend?

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